Just as the word "HON" is now connected with the Hamden area of Baltimore, the word "LOVE!" has been long associated with Felice Leo Buscaglia.. in fact, when he wrote his book LOVE!, his publisher found that there was no other book before that time that had that title.
Leo said that all people need three things:
He asked: "Why is it so hard to say 'I love you?'"
During the time when Leo was giving his famous lectures, my family followed them and my wife and I taught our kids to say those words whenever they meant them. Luckily, they meant them a lot when we spoke to the members of our family.. "Te amo! a la familia!" as they said in the wonderful movie: Moonstruck.
However, even though I thought I was half-Italian at the time, we said our love words in English. Today, I'm so happy to say, my kids still say: "I love you, Dad!" or "I love you, Pop!" to me when we talk... and my grandkids (and their friends and families) say: "I love you, Prepop!" to me whenever we communicate.
Leo also suggested doing these things each and every day:
1. Do or say something nice to someone else.
Small example: The other day I happened to be in a high-rise continuing care facility, where the people did not look as happy as I would have expected, living at friendly Carroll Lutheran Village as I do.
A very old looking man was hobbling down the hall on his cane, bent over, with his head down. I noticed that he had a T-shirt on with the words: "Are You My Type?" on the front. When he passed, I read the words on the back: "Become a Red Cross Blood Donor." This made me smile and I told the guy that I really liked his shirt. He immediately perked up and smiled too.
We talked a bit and little by little it seemed that he was getting taller and in better spirits. All this guy needed to feel better was a little attention and respect. I felt better too, talking to him.
If you think something is nice about a person.. say it to them! Make their day! And your's too!
2. Do something nice for yourself. (you deserve it!)
3. Do something you've been putting off.
4. Challenge your brain. (use it or lose it)
5. Before you go to sleep, think about something you are thankful for. (at least, you didn't find your name in the obituary columns today!)
Leo also said:
If you have a negative thought.. crush it!
If you have a positive thought.. express it!
If you want to read more about the subject of LOVE! check out Leo's books or a nice little book entitled A Thousand Paths to Love by David Baird; all very inexpensive on Amazon.
End of lecture, and thanks for listening. Just remember what Bette Midler once said:
"L'amour, l'amour.. really, that's all there is!"